Category Archives: Marriage memos

… learning to love…

Posted on June 4, 2021 by oct17

“I’m going to marry that guy,” I whispered to my friend in church when I first saw Tom; I was 16; he was 17. How could I possibly know? I have no idea… but I have spent my life thanking … Continue reading →

Posted in early morning thoughts, Marriage memos | Tagged Charlie Shedd, Deuteronomy 24:5, DISC, divorce, Enneagram, Gary Chapman, Letters to Karen, Letters to Philip, marriage, Myers Briggs, personality tests, Prevention and Relational Enhancement Program, Proverbs 23:12, The Five Love Languages | 4 Comments

… kissing frogs…

Posted on March 13, 2021 by oct17

I have always been gullible… … as the second oldest of nine children, I imagined myself as Cinderella when piles of laundry covered the floor on Monday, and I would iron for days. I spent many hours dreaming of kissing … Continue reading →

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. . . rewinding . . .

Posted on March 14, 2020 by oct17

The clock struck an early hour. I lay still, listening to its steady whispers as time ticked away . . . one second after another. This heirloom has been ticking and chiming a long time. The clock was Tom’s grandmother’s; … Continue reading →

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. . . the last time . . .

Posted on February 12, 2020 by oct17

“This could be our last breakfast,” I solemnly said to Tom one morning last week. Events of the week had propelled my thoughts into last times and last things. Last week a dear family friend had two strokes and given … Continue reading →

Posted in Marriage memos | Tagged death, Deuteronomy 24:5, John 10:10, last, living in the moment, marriage, Romans 15:13, the last time, Valentine's | 9 Comments

. . . in the storm . . .

Posted on March 15, 2019 by oct17

I remember the day . . . some parts not so clearly. But I do remember the storm. Strong March winds rocked the vanilla colored Volkswagon as we headed up the mountain. Dark clouds filled the sky, and pelting rain … Continue reading →

Posted in Marriage memos | Tagged Ecclesiastes 4:12, John 6, Psalm 56:3, storms | 6 Comments

. . .anniversary ramblings. . .

Posted on March 13, 2018 by oct17

I was 16 . . . going on 17. “I am going to marry that fella,” I whispered to my friend Rosemary in church the last Sunday in August, 1962. And so I did. How did I know this young … Continue reading →

Posted in Marriage memos | Tagged anniversary, Focus on the Family, marriage, Psalm 133, Shana Schutte | 6 Comments

learning . . . loving. . .on the journey

Posted on March 13, 2017 by oct17

Surprise! A second post in a week. I would love to blog weekly, but alas, retirement is such a busy job. We have more projects going than hours in the day but as this is a special day and a cold, … Continue reading →

Posted in early morning thoughts, Marriage memos | Tagged Charlie Shedd, Deuteronomy 24:5, Dr. Benjamin Spock, Ephesians 4:32, Gary Chapman The Five Love Languages, Home Life, James Dobson, Letters to Karen, Letters to Philp, marriage, Proverbs 18:22, Proverbs 25:24, Reader's Digest, study your man, The Ladies' Home Journal, Willard Farley His Needs Her Needs | 7 Comments

Fifty Years of Color . . .

Posted on February 9, 2015 by oct17

Imagine a world with no color–all grey. How depressing. Who delights in a cloudy, dreary grey day? Or loves the color of ash or enjoys the coldness of a slab of lead? Wikipedia identifies grey as literally a color “without … Continue reading →

Posted in early morning thoughts, Marriage memos | Tagged Color, FIfty Shades of Grey, marriage, Ps 34:5 | 5 Comments

A Marriage Memo . . .

Posted on March 24, 2014 by oct17

Tom had an early morning breakfast meeting today which left me having breakfast alone. I love cereal–he calls me a “cereal-killer”, but he has never enjoyed that staple food for his breakfast. So this morning, I looked forward to my … Continue reading →

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