Tom had an early morning breakfast meeting today which left me having breakfast alone. I love cereal–he calls me a “cereal-killer”, but he has never enjoyed that staple food for his breakfast.
So this morning, I looked forward to my cereal time. I filled my bowl, added bright sweet strawberries, some toasted walnuts and prepared to enjoy my favorite comfort food.
But do you know what?
It wasn’t quite as good; it wasn’t fun eating alone–we have spent the last days reminiscing, still celebrating our 50th celebration. I reflected on these mornings of marriage–breakfast is his favorite meal and time of day.
When a couple hits the fifty year mark of marriage, it is evident you are no longer young–there are less years ahead than behind you.
Does that damper my outlook for this day? Never . . .
Tom’s first funeral as a 25-year old pastor was for a 37-year old man with two young boys. I can still remember internalizing that event-the pain for the family.
I determined that day to enjoy Tom Suiter for as many days as I had; I literally chose to never take one day for granted–to delight in him as the gift I had been given. And I can say I have done that as best as I could, not perfectly — but almost 🙂
The journey of marriage is not an easy one; it is difficult for two to become one, but it is a journey with great rewards, blessings and surprises – a precious gift the Lord has given to us–for our enjoyment, for our pleasure. One of my favorite verses in Scripture is Deuteronomy 24: 5: “If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.”
I smile–can you just see all new husbands not working for one year. But don’t miss the meaning here. Marriage is a journey of learning and choosing, of accepting and forgiving.
And it takes a lifetime–not one year.
Still choosing and enjoying Tom Suiter
(Just wanted to write on marriage today–)